Little by Little

Maybe it’s because I have been watching scrubs season 5 and 6 where everyone seems to be getting pregnant, maybe it’s because the topic randomly came up in a discussion with my chick friend yesterday or maybe it’s because I heard the bestest news that my super swell buddy's real sis is pregnant.. But the topic of babies has been hovering in my head since yesterday...

As u can see this has the makings of an extremely girly post but I really hope the guys read it too because most guys adore babies even though they mostly won’t admit it. Although some do keep referring to babies they see around as the cutest things ever :P

When u think babies.. You think of the typical stuff- cute, cuddly, baby smell, toys, baby cries and cackles, their first walk/word/sentence... etc etc...

It’s true… Babies are AMAZING! But for most people who have them it’s one of the most life changing things that EVER happens to them. Babies change everything. They are small but they bring with them great responsibility. You have to leave behind the life you had so that it can revolve around the single most precious thing that you possess. Most successful women deprive themselves from the joys of raising a child for this very reason. It takes a lot of time, energy and stress (both physical and mental) to ensure that the tiny little thing says healthy and safe.

Women go through post-partum depression because the responsibility is just too huge for them to handle especially if they do not have a good support-system from their families. The baby becomes a burden to her life and they start hating themselves for thinking this way.

But I quote my Mom here-“People who keep postponing having a baby or who don’t want to have a baby because their life is just too great the way it is, are the BIGGEST idiots that exist on the face of the earth. It is one of the most challenging phases of a person’s life, but NOTHING and I mean NOTHING gives you more happiness and satisfaction than devoting a major section in bringing up your child.”
At one point or another EVERY girl gets the picture in her head where she is the mother of a child with a man who loves her and cares about her. Or even being a mother to a child who could not be brought up by his biological parents.

Also, there’s always the pressure of being a good parent especially if you think you lack a maternal or paternal instinct. There’s the pressure of ensuring your child loves and respects you and values what you to say to him/her. Hoping that you will learn from the mistakes your parents made with you and you will tackle situations better than they did. All in all, the idea of having a child is mind numbingly scary, but eventually, the entire thing is totally worth it. Especially because you share this joy with the person you love and share your life with.

I don’t know how far I got with this post. I have a feeling I basically kept beating around the bush. Honestly, there are so many things related to this topic that can be talked about here but I’ll just leave you with this much.

As a teenager, it is too early to think so much about this topic but the truth is- you WILL have to think about it SOME day so choosing a random day like today to give it a little thought is not that bad an idea.



"Little by little
We gave you everything
You ever dreamed of
Little by little
The wheels of your life
Have slowly fallen off
Little by little
You had to give it all in all your life
And all the time I just ask myself why
You're really here"
-Courtesy Noel Gallagher (OASIS)

Growing Pains :|

When people ask me- "so..what does it feel like to be 19?", i feel annoyed at the person for rubbing it in that even though i AM 19, noone at home lets me feel that way.

I had to go to my grandma's to spend the night because my grandad's in the hospital. My parents know the plan about where n when i'll have to go etc.. But they wont tell me and then 5 mins before we leave my mum tells me to keep some clothes. I keep my comfy tee n half pants in my dad's bag n the moment i turn my back-my mum starts checkin the bag for what i've kept, takes it out n replaces it with some odd clothes which she likes n i dont.. She always does this.. Asks me to pack and then disapproves of what i pack and instructs me to wear some crap for some particular occasion. In the end i have a bag full of crap for a small 5 day trip out of which only 2-3 things r worn by me.

And to top it all she wants me to carry a tiffin n bottle with me when i go out to meet my friends for the day. And then she screams at me on the phone when i run out of the house without em.Bleeeaarrgghh

Sounds stupid n girly n i sound like some weirdly peeved teenager but i'm sure a lotta ppl can relate to this.Wherever i go, my relatives keep instructing me on what to do -"Nikita,you should eat now, Nikita go n buy a book or something to keep you from gettin bored, Nikita you haven't been to the loo, dont you want to go

i feel more like a 3 yr old than a 19 yr old. For them i'm still a baby girl..
fine..i get it.. i still hug on to my teddies on bad days and make a fuss when my cousin's kids want to play with them... but thats different..
I mean its really great that they care bout when i pee n when i dont but i think i can do without it..

Its not just me, Pallavi who is frikkin 20 now (olg hag :P ) is in probably a worse situation than me. Her parents still fire her for gettin up after 7.00 in the morning n not sleepin at 10 in the night